Caution: The post you’re about to read consists of simulated life, the writer’s high narcism, rambling notes, and a nonsense pseudo-common-sense-based theory which do not have anything to support 😛
My wife made a good Mum. A very reliable one. If my kids have problems, they’ll go looking for their Mum for advice. I made a good Dad. A practical one. If my kids have problems, they’ll go looking for me, to poke me, to complain, and to do them some stuffs.
My kids told me a few times that I am a good Dad. But what made a person a good parent? Is it availibility? Is it compassion? Is it cooperativeness?
If I remembered some of the comments my friends told me when we’re all just a kid, most of them wants more freedom from their parents. I’m tolerant. Very tolerant. Is that why I made a better Dad, kids?
My brother gave my daughter a lecture on Relationship101 this evening. Cute as it is, but it’s still a subject the kids refuse to hear from any adults. My daughter and brother looked cute together. They had this odd father-daughter thing that made me felt like a spectator while the two appeared on the same room. A very amusing show indeed. Tya should seen this, we’ll have a hell of a laugh.
I told my daughter, what if my brother is her Dad, instead of me? “Duh, kalo aku jadi anaknya Abang, nanti aku dicengin Abang terus. Dicurhatin. Terus, dicubitin. Terus, nanti aku ngga dapet pacar gara-gara pada takut sama Abang..,” begitu kata anak saya 😀
Sounds like a typical Dad, eh? Yes, sounds like stripped from an Indonesian cigarette ads.. :-”
But since the idea had been refused, I’m still the Dad. Kids prefer flexible parents. The idea of having a grumpy old grandpa as a Dad might have scared my daughter. I, on he other hand, enjoy being a parent without too many rules (rules are a set of dynamic agreements, which depends on the communication between the parties involved, in order to try to reach a win-win solution, at least for me). So, I made the better Dad *narsis*, .. but only for the kids ;))
My parents are not strict. I reflect what they had as a policy in parenting. Being too loose on your kids might will cause them harm. But being too strict can be fatal too. My wife and I practices loose parenting, and we have two weird kids. But there’s difference in taking care of what’s yours and what’s really yours. On a real event, I might will become a strict Dad. There was a research that says, those who are raised with more freedom, sometimes became more strict as a parent, because they have seen the real danger of being an uncautious parents. It’s probably true. But on the other hand, we can’t really tell.
On my case, the kids made their parents. We don’t. Afterall, how can I be strict to my cute teens? 😀 *cubit-cubit anaknya*